Posts Tagged ‘Advice’

What do you do when your child hates to lose?

laurajane021 March 14th, 2017 No Comments

What do you do when you child hates to lose? Winning and losing is an enevitable part of the party life and party games can be really hard for a child who hates to lose. They can be hard for adults who hate to lose – although drinking games, of course, can have much worse consequences.

From what I can remember I wasn’t great at losing. I wasn’t an outward crier much more of an internal “I must beat them next time no matter what” kind of child. My earliest memories are in fact of when I did not win in sport. I have always been extremely competetive and for this reason winning and losing have been paramount in my life (I played every sport I could). I may seem quite hard during parties when a child comes up to me crying because they haven’t won. Usually I open with “You will be okay” because this is the most important thing children have to learn. That they will be okay if they lose. So why are winning and losing such important skills to teach children? And how can you combat the upset if your child does lose?

The Importance of Winning

Everyone loves to win. Winning is a huge self-esteem boost for children and can develop a lot of their key attitudes, most prominantly a “I can do this” attitude. It gives them determination and motivation, they want to win and they want to suceed and this can carry through to life.

It also can build their strategic thinking and their ability to problem solve in order to win. (Just ask any strategic pass the parcel passer!). This means their thinking may become more lateral and creative. Winning gives a child pride in their actions and they want to repeat that feeling again this can begin to filter into other areas of their life too.

The Importance of losing

Children have to learn to lose. In life they will experience being unsuccessfull and teaching them from a young age to deal with these situations is extremely important. Losing, although hard, develops children’s empathy skills and emotional skills.

It can also build determination, they want to win next time and how can they achieve it? How can they work hard to meet that goal or win that game? If they want to win in a game but don’t, that is okay as they can try really hard next time, this is an important skill. It teaches children to deal with negative experience, that losing isn’t something to be feared but that it is part of life. Processing negative experiences can be difficult for adults so instilling these first emotional experiences into children can be of great benefit as they grow up.

What can I do if my child hates to lose?

Teach them how to! Play games at home and don’t let them win. Help them to process losing and have them look at what they could do next time in order to succeed. If they lose in a party and begin to cry, take them aside and speak to them about the importance of losing and how if they win everytime it will mean other children won’t get to be happy because they have won.

Show them how peers are dealing with losing in a game, that they are okay and “you can’t win everytime” attitude. Children will be okay when they lose, maybe not immidiately but I like to hope in the parties we encourage positivity out of losing, that there will always be a second, third, fourth chance to win. Something I think we all need to remember in life, never give up one day you will win that bag of Haribo!

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Siblings at Birthday Parties

laurajane021 March 1st, 2017 No Comments

Siblings at Birthday Parties is always going to be a challenge and a difficult (sometimes awkward subject) to broach. Well let me start by saying I am one of four children with two years between each of us. When we were growing up I remember saying to my mum “Mum we don’t get invited to a lot of weddings or parties”, It is only now as an adult that I understand the reasons behind (or what I like to think are the reasons behind) the lack of invitations.

Parties are stressful events, there is the venue to sort, the invitations, the food, the entertainment, party bags, cake – I could go on, but what is even more stressful is if you design all of the above for a certain number and then someone turns up with three extra from their house all ready to join in.

Here are my top five tips to avoid the awkwardness of siblings and the birthday party.



Siblings at Birthday Parties

Tip One

  • Be clear on the invitations – ensure you state that you have a set number you have to adhere to for the party and don’t be afraid to put “only” or “just class friends” or even “no siblings”. If you are concerned about this you can always put an option of “If you brothers or sisters will be present please do bring them a snack and they are welcome to join us at the party table”. Also check with your entertainment companies policy on additional children- we for instance cater for 30 in each package so are always more than happy to include siblings if we are under 30 children.

Tip Two

  • People will not be offended if siblings aren’t invited they will have their own parties and parents are probably glad of the break sometimes – so don’t feel guilty. Also don’t worry about providing party bags for siblings unless they are invited.

Tip Three

  • If they are close friends or family friends make the invite out to all of them, state everyone who you would like to invite to the party, that way confusion can be avoided.

Tip Four

  • Keep party numbers smaller. Parents are less likely to bring additional children if there are under 20 children invited however over 20 children people don’t tend to think it matters as much.

Tip Five

  • If there are little siblings there (under two’s) make a separate area in the party room or a seperate table space for these little ones to keep them separate from the big ones – state this on the invitation along with “If you wish to bring toys along”. This way parents can bring snacks and toys for very little ones without you having to include them in the party numbers.

Always remember to not feel guilty and likewise if you are a parent with lots of little ones, like my mum, make it clear to the party parent that you don’t expect them to be invited and that it is no problem!

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